A Moving Experience

Last night I went to hear a trio of girl singers called Triple Threat at the Gaslight Theatre. They performed “A Century of Song,” singing melodies through the ages starting with the 1920s.

The house lights dimmed, the entertainers came on stage and began to belt out their first song, when a bug flew down my bodice and landed in my brassiere.

I was sitting near the front of the stage. I couldn’t get up to leave without the entire audience becoming aware of my exit. So, as the bug began to crawl around, I figured if it didn’t sting me, I’d be okay until intermission.

Every time the trio finished a song and the audience clapped---I beat my chest.

The bug didn’t die until the 1960s. The ‘60s was a time of the Viet Nam War, drugs, free love and now a dead bug in my bra. I shook it out in the Ladies Room at intermission, and the women in there were laughing so hard that I drew a crowd. One woman said that my act was better than the show, and I didn’t even have to sing.

For you purists out there---No, I don’t know what kind of bug it was, because it was well smushed by the time I got rid of it.

The moral of this tale: Curiosity kills more than cats.

Esther Blumenfeld (So, what’s the latest buzz?)

Sleep On It

Labor Day officially became a Federal holiday in 1894. It recognizes economic and social contributions of American workers, as well as the end of summer. To celebrate the occasion, folks enjoy parades, cookouts, athletic events and mattress sales.

After 18 years of good service, I decided it was time to replace my lumpy mattress. I had kept the original paperwork, and thought, “This will be easy. I’ll go to the mattress store and just order the same kind of mattress I had before.” When I showed the sales lady my old bill of sale, she said, “This was a really good mattress. Unfortunately, the company is no longer in business, but we have many, many, many new brands for you to consider. Our price range goes from $500 to $10,000, but we can order a more expensive mattress if you so choose.”

I responded, “I don’t want to have to replace it again in a year, but I don’t want to drive it out of here either.” She said, “Before we begin. Do you have any sleep problems? What is your night like?” I replied, “I go to bed when it’s dark and get up when it’s light.” “So, you don’t have any body problems,” she surmised. “Well,” I answered. “I’d like to lose 5 pounds, but I don’t think that is mattress related.”

At this point, I think she wearied of our conversation, so she suggested that I try out some of the beds in the store. Eying a snotty nosed kid with his sneakers on one of the mattresses, I said, “I don’t think I want to try that one.”

First, I sprawled out on a Memory Foam mattress. “Unless, it can tell me where I misplaced my earrings, I don’t think this one’s for me,” I told her. “Do they make water mattresses anymore?” I asked. “We don’t carry those,” she replied. “Great,” I said. “Getting seasick is not my idea of a good night’s rest.”

After jumping from bed to bed, I decide that foam is not for me, unless it’s on top of a glass of beer. The “spring forward, drop back” mattress would be too confusing since I live in Arizona and we don’t have Daylight Savings Time. I’d probably be springing and dropping at the wrong time. Also, I was never good with numbers in school, so why would I want a Sleep Number” mattress that would be smarter than I am?

“Does the Temper-Pedic snap at you in the middle of the night?” I asked. The patient sales lady explained that the mattress isn’t angry and it is spelled Tempur-Pedic.

Finally, lying on one of the mattresses, I shouted, “This one is for me!” It was as close a match as I could get to replace my old one. Because it was a Labor Day sale, my sales lady took $400 off the listed price, and since she had a special deal on sheets and a super-duper mattress cover, I used the discount to complete the order.

Two days later, two men who must have been hired right out of the circus delivered my mattress. One carried my king-sized mattress on his shoulder, and the other one carried my old one out the same way. “You are the strongest men, I have ever met,” I exclaimed. “We do it all day long,” one man replied, “and after work, we go to the gym.”

My new sheets arrived a day later, which was a good thing, because the old sheets didn’t fit and I awakened that morning with the bottom sheet wrapped around my neck. I’ll bet the store doesn’t give a refund for a hanging!

Esther Blumenfeld (The princess should have removed the pea. It would have been cheaper.)

You're In Charge. Now What?

Last month, I attended a homeowners association meeting where it took two hours to accomplish absolutely nothing. A woman on the Board of Directors wrestled the gavel away from the President, and proceeded to build a case to impose her opinion on others. Her filibuster was built on a cushion of air. The President suffered from rigor mortis as she went on and on. I got up and left as soon as she tried to impress us with psychobabble.

Losing control of a meeting is only one way to torture an audience. All of us have suffered public speakers that can’t organize a talk or tell time. Then there’s the program chairman whose introduction is longer than the speaker’s presentation. And, we all recognize the facilitator who can’t tell the difference between a question and a statement.

Because of our professional collaboration as authors, Lynne Alpern and I were often invited to introduce prominent speakers, facilitate professional meetings, or present keynote addresses to conventions around the country.

Other than using humor as an effective communication tool, one of the reasons we were successful speakers was that we followed the advice of an Episcopalian minister who said, “Every Episcopalian minister knows that no speech should be longer than 20 minutes, because after 20 minutes half of the audience is asleep, and the other half are having sexual fantasies.”

We kept our talks funny and short and always checked out the meeting room exits in case we’d have to make a fast get-away.

Humor is also an effective tool when moderating a meeting. One time, I began by saying, “When I was asked to chair this meeting, I prayed for three things. I prayed for the wisdom of Solomon. I prayed for the patience of Job. And, I prayed I wouldn’t end up like Jonah.”

Because I abhor meetings, I became adept at keeping them moving along---.” “We are going to start this meeting on time, because as my rabbi always says, ‘It’s never too late to repent, but you might as well start on time.”’

Early in our careers in Atlanta, Lynne and I were invited to introduce monthly speakers to a gathering called The Village Writers Group. Many of these speakers were prominent authors, and as our group became well known, we managed to poke fun at some pretty famous people. Here’s a sample from our introduction of Terry Kaye, whose books were adapted for movies and television. We also managed to plant a dig at Frances Patton Statham, a well-known author of historic novels.

Lynne: Good evening. I would like to welcome Terry Kay, whom you will be hearing from in just a few minutes.

Esther: Terry Kay is one of my favorite authors. I’ve read all of his books. After Eli, Dark Thirty, To Dance With The White Dog, but my favorite is, Obsessive Compulsive Love—A Tasteful Tale Of Sadomasochism.

Lynne: Terry Kay didn’t write that.

Esther: Sure he did.

Lynne: No, he didn’t

Esther: Go on. Then it must have been that other fellow, Frances Patton Statham.

Lynne: Frances Patton Statham is a distinguished, respected woman author.

Esther: Then why did she write, Obsessive Compulsive Love?

Lynne: She didn’t write that book either.

Esther: I am so excited. Terry Kaye is actually here. I even buy his Mama’s cosmetics.

Lynne: His mother sells cosmetics?

Esther: You know---Mary Kay.

Lynne: Mary Kay is not Terry Kaye’s mother.

Esther: Then why is she using his name to sell her cosmetics?

Lynne: You’ve never even met Terry Kaye.

Esther: I was introduced to him once in a crowd, and he was as nice as he could be. You know he prides himself on never forgetting a name. Why that man meets you once, and he remembers your name forever.

Lynne: He remembered your name?

Esther: Sure enough. I went to one of his book signings a year later and he recognized me right away. He said, “Hey, Darlin’.’”

Lynne: Your name is “Darling?”

Esther: Well, actually, it’s Esther, but if Mary Kay can call him “Son,” Terry Kaye can call me, “Darlin’.”

Lynne: Are you finished?

Esther: He’s a lot better looking on his book jacket.

Lynne: You’re finished!

And that’s the way it’s done.

Esther Blumenfeld (few are chosen)

Put A Cork In It

Now that I have my land legs back, I could tell you about sailing on the Rhone River through the heart of Burgundy and Provence. I could regale you with stories about sumptuous cuisine, world-class art, breath-taking scenery and legendary history--- but I won’t. Because, after a week of gazing, swirling, sniffing, sipping and surreptitiously guzzling French wines, I will share with you some wine tasting tips I picked up along the way.

First of all, when pouring a glass of wine, you fill the goblet about one-third full, so when swirling and tilting the liquid, you won’t dump the elixir into your lap. This is a no-no, especially if the wine costs $80 a bottle. But I need to back up.

There is a term called, “stemware awareness.” When tasting wine, it is much more desirable to use a tulip shaped glass, rather than a paper cup. After pouring the wine, the first thing to do is to gaze adoringly at the wine to study its color. It is preferable to hold a white sheet of paper behind it and tilt the glass a little. If you haven’t gotten out of bed yet, you could use your bed sheet. If the wine is brackish brown or slimy green, don’t go to the next step.

It is advised that you hold your glass by the stem, because if you hold it by the bowl, your hand will warm the wine. I don’t understand this rule because I never hold my wine long enough to let it get warm.

Okay, so now you have studied the color of your wine, it is time to start swirling it in the glass. The swirling lets oxygen penetrate the wine and releases its vapors. This is good, because the next step is to stick your nose into the glass. But before you start sniffing, you need to look at the glass to study the little streaks of wine that appear on the inside of the glass. They appear because of the swirling and are called “legs.” It is enjoyable to watch them run back into the wine. Don’t worry if your legs are wrinkly. Now, you can smell your wine.

The smelling part is rather tricky. There is a difference between a “first nose” and a “second nose.” This does not involve plastic surgery, but the smell will change the second time you stick your nose into your glass. It is considered bad form to stick your nose into your neighbor’s glass.

The sniffing is rather arbitrary, because when asked people don’t smell the same fragrances. One man in our group said the wine smelled like fruit loops, and another man smelled garlic, which I suspect emanated from his breath and not his glass.

Now that you have studied the color, swirled the wine, examined the legs and stuck your nose into the glass, it is time to take a sip of your wine. However, before you swallow, it is advised to let the wine linger a bit in the mouth. If you are a champion wine taster, you can tighten your mouth and breathe in over the wine, and send the aroma back into the nasal cavity. Of course if you aren’t a champ, this could also send the wine down into your windpipe and you will die.

Finally, it’s time to say “A votre sante!” and savor the wine. At this point, purists spit it out, pour another glass from a different bottle and start all over again.

Are they nuts!

Esther Blumenfeld (If Shiraz smells like leather can you serve it to a vegan?)

It's Been Quite A Ride

I was my mother’s weird child, and more than once in exasperation, she’d exclaim, “I hope you get a child just like you!” Well, she got her wish. Only, I’m proud to report that my son, Josh was always much better at “otherness” than I ever was. Of course, his Dad was a strange and wondrous fellow, who used to tell me, “It’s good that we found each other, because I doubt if anyone else would have us.”

Josh is approaching a special birthday, so indulge me when I introduce you to this young man, who, over the years, has taken me on quite a parental ride. Even as a child he had a wry sense of humor and a gift for understatement. I learned early on that he will begin a statement with information such as, “The trip to camp was fun,” and then it becomes more complicated when he adds---“after we put out the fire on the bus.”

When he was a graduate student at the  Institute for Environmental Studies at the University of Wisconsin, he told his Dad and me that his major professor had invited us to his home for dinner, so naturally we dressed appropriately for the occasion. However, Josh failed to mention that his famous professor lived at the edge of the wetlands, and that we were going to slog through the marsh looking for rare plants and beasties. His Dad, dressed in a suit, helplessly sank up to his ankles in muck, and I never did see any critters, although I could hear them, and later found a creepy crawly in my shoe.

Then Josh took flight lessons. When I telephoned to ask him how he was doing he said, “Great! I love flying. I just have to perfect my landings.” A mother does not want to hear that!

When he was Editor of Publications at the National Wildflower Research Center in Austin, Texas, Lady Bird Johnson invited him and his co-workers to her house for lunch. After lunch, she said, “The television in my bedroom isn’t working.” Then, pointing at Josh, she said, “You, please go fix it.”  Josh is almost as handy as his father, who once changed a light bulb in our apartment in Chicago---and the entire city went dark. Gamely, he ventured into the bedroom, stared at the television set and noticed that one of the connections was loose. Triumphantly, he reported that he had fixed the set. However, from that day on Josh said, “I live in constant fear that her washing machine will go on the fritz.”

Josh had a successful run as an actor in New York City as a member of a repertory ensemble. In one of his roles, he played a villain in Shakespeare’s Macbeth. After the play closed, he came home for a visit, and when I picked him up at the airport, he told me that he’d have to get the stitches removed from his arm. “What stitches? What happened?” I yelled. “Well,” he began, “most people don’t know about the curse of Macbeth.” “What is the curse of Macbeth?” I asked.

He replied, “Because of all of the sword action in the play, someone usually gets hurt.” “And you got cut with the blade?” I asked. “No,” he replied, “It was the pommel on top of the grip. Another actor grabbed me, and while we were wrestling it sliced an artery.” “Don’t look so worried,” he added, “it was at the end of the play and the audience didn’t know the difference. The stage blood looked just like mine. They rushed me to the hospital, and the best part was that doctors came from all over the hospital to look at me.” “Oh, My God!” I replied. “It must have been a terrible cut.” “No,” he said, “They didn’t come to look at the cut. They couldn’t get over how real the scar on my face looked.”  

After his adventure in New York, he returned to graduate school at the University of Colorado in Boulder for a degree in Journalism. During this time he was awarded a Colorado Press Association scholarship for a summer internship at The Durango Herald Newspaper. One of his assignments was to cover the Iron Horse Bicycle Classic, and the only way to cover this 50- mile, 20,000 pedal stroke, 6,650-foot mountain climb in the most rugged mountains in Colorado was to participate.

He rented a Cannondale road bike that “cost more than my car and weighed less than my water bottle.” “By the time I reached Purgatory, parts of my body were numb that normally aren’t,” he reported. Then he wrote, “The descent into Silverton was one of the scariest rides, I’ve ever taken. Gravity pulled the Road Rocket downhill at speeds faster than the posted speed limit.” With only a lightweight helmet, a thin racing jersey and shorts, Josh rode 35m.p.h. down the mountain. He earned bragging rights. I got a rash.

After graduation, he became an, On Air, Tornado Alley Meteorologist, and I could watch him on my computer being whipped about in blizzards and drenching storms. “Don’t worry, Mom,” he said, “I’ve had storm spotter training and severe weather workshops.” He was literally on the fast track.

He blew out of that job and is now in Washington, DC with his new bride, Barbara. So what did they do on their honeymoon? Sounds as if it was lots of fun!  “We swam with the sharks and stingrays.” My new daughter’s life will never be boring.  I think the adventure is just beginning. Happy Birthday, Son!

Esther Blumenfeld (Hear that beat? It’s the different drummer)